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Why is it so hard to decide?

Why are we confused, what leads to confusion? Why is it so hard to decide.
Decisions are always tough, you have to weight all the possibilities, and your mind doesn’t only oscillate between the good and the evil, there is actually a whole jury inside your mind, many voices with many reasons and many possibilities.
The fact is that it is impossible to make a well informed decision because the it is impossible to gain information on the future. Anything you think or predict or determine about the future is nothing more than a guess. Sometimes the most well-intentioned decisions turn out to be the ones we regret all our lives. Why, because it is impossible to predict the future. Whenever we decide, oh let me do 2 years of this and gain experience, and then my CV will look so good and then ill do 2 years of that other thing, and then go for my MBA which will take another 2 years, and then ill get my dream job. Haha..
You really think the next 6 years will go as planned. Maybe you will hate your first job so much you will want to quit in 6 months. Maybe there will be a global financial crisis and you will be fired from your 2nd job staining that oh so precious CV. Maybe you will not be accepted to the MBA school you wanted to go to, or more probable still you would not have saved the money needed for the fee… As I said, it is impossible to predict the future.
So stop trying to predict the future. Make the decisions on instinct. Which job  

Decisions are always tough! You have to weight all the possibilities, come to all the conclusions and make up your mind on which side of the fence you are going to be. You have to stop talking and start doing. You got to pick a lane and stay your course.

As Morpheus says in The Matrix –

There is a difference between knowing the path and walking the path.

That is why we run away from decisions, cause once we have decided there are no more excuses, there is no turning back. We must walk to path we have chosen. Before getting to the decision however our minds not only oscillate between the good and the evil but wander among the hundreds of possibilities in between, each with its own positives and negatives and implications. We are so scared of making the wrong choice that we try and predict the implications, which is impossible. There is absolutely no way of predicting the future, of knowing how a certain choice would affect our lives in a few years time.

So what is the best way to make a decision – make it based on your beliefs, your principles, your loves. I think staying true to your inner self is the only way to stay consistent and avoid regrets. A lot of us are always seeking advice, but advice is cheap and most advice is also safe. However the best decisions are mostly the ones which go against the status quo, are based on nothing but belief and full of passion. So I say do not be scared of being bold, follow your heart and make change. However the greatest attribute of a good decision is the ability to stick to it and see it through till the end, when you realize that in fact you are ‘The one’.


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The Problem with Video Games

I have a little problem with video games and their evolution. As you all know video games have undergone a massive evolution over the last decade. More and more they resemble real life, with life-like graphics, interaction and amazing game play. The day is not far when video games, virtual reality, futuristic display devices will combine to give us an experience that will be every bit like the real world. In fact even more beautiful, more visceral, more engaging than the world we live in.

However there is one huge disconnect between video games and real life. The ability to pause and save, the ability to start over. Games do not follow the principles of time, they have no sense of direction and no sense of past or present or future. It’s a pity, but life is not like that.

In Reality –

We cannot save our childhood so we can visit it every time we feel down. We cannot collect our favorite moments and relive them again and again. We cannot delete our failures, our losses.

Life comes at us only once. There is no save, no pause.

If you grew up playing video games, you have this basic instinct that there is always a second chance. You can always go back and collect the weapon or the skill you might need in the next level. You are always ready to take a risk without considering all the consequences.

But in life the last stage is gone forever, there is no going back and learning a new trick. There is no exploring a different track just for the fun of it. The fact is one wrong turn could lead you down a cliff you may never be able to climb back from. Its a bit like in space where if you leave the mother ship without a rope, you might never be able to get back even if you are only centimeters away.

falling in space

So take your steps carefully. Make your decisions after having considered all the possibilities and listen to your heart. Don’t take a step just because someone advices to ‘go have a look’ because in life one step off the right path could mean a thousand miles off your destination.

In reality game over means truly game over !

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Top 10 factors for deciding on a Job

Most of us are so busy trying to land a job that we forget we will spend most of our day doing it. Especially your first job could shape your destiny and make you who you will be for the rest of your life.

Here are my top 10 factors to take into consideration while choosing an employment –

1. Industry
2. Division
3. Job title
4. Job description
5. Work environment
6. Company name / reputation
7. Location
8. Salary
9. Overseas travel
10. Perks

The problem is most of us fall into the big company / big salary trap and forget who we wanted to be in the first place. The salary/perks/compensation will come if you become good at your job, but that is only going to happen if you like what you do.

Think there are other factors? Don’t agree with this? Let me know in the comments.

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Ideas – the beginning

Ideas seem to have a life of their own. They grow over time, leaving the mind and body of the creator and take on a surreal presence with influence over people’s lives and their futures. Google started off as an idea to search the growing internet in a more organized way, and today it is one of the most innovative and admired companies in the world and also a verb. Ikea started off as an idea to bring designer furniture to the masses, and today it employs over a hundred thousand people with retail presence all over the world.

Before reaching world changing proportions however, ideas need to be nourished and developed. Typically an idea starts off brightly, we get what seems like a strike of lightening in our minds and suddenly there is a paradigm shift in our thinking,

“This is the way it should be done” OR 

“This is just what people need”.

A typical characteristic of an idea is that it has only two ways to go, either it will grow and become bigger and turn what we imagined into reality OR die as quickly as it struck our minds and disappear forever. There is NO middle path. An idea does not have the ability to stay suspended in a motionless state, it is in continuous motion, either evolving or dying.

Thus it becomes absolutely critical to nourish an idea, by writing it down and thinking about the implications and the possibilities, by making an action plan, by considering the work that will need to be done to turn the idea into reality.

Sooner or later you come to the point where you will need to discuss the idea with someone, when the idea needs thoughts and action from more than one person and this is where some critical decisions are made. Too many people make the mistake of keeping their idea a secret for too long in the fear that someone else might steal it, however the chances of that happening are far less than it dying due to lack of action. It is a risk that must be taken.

The important thing is to talk to someone with the same mindset and the same world-view. Most people are ready to shoot down anything new you might present to them because they are scared of change, do not have the ability or the courage to disturb the set ways of the world and thus will take the first opportunity to discourage any one else who tries to innovate. Stay away from the skeptics in the beginning and do not be disheartened by them, because they will be the first ones to turn around and applaud your idea once it finds success.

Once you have your team, all pulling in the same direction, the idea will start to grow beyond your own mind and into an entity of its own. Give it a name and a plan of action and then the fun really begins.


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Normal Folk

Its very easy to say why a great product cannot be made, why great service cannot be delivered, why a great idea cannot become reality. We are surrounded by Naysayers who will tell you at the first opportunity why your plan will not work because in the real world it’s the people with money, influence and power win and normal folk like you and me do not. 

They will tell you that Normal folk ought to go about their jobs and grocery shopping and once a year trips to Disneyland be satisfied with that. Normal Folk need to spend their lives saving for their retirement and their children’s college fee, and by getting a stable job at a large firm and doing everything your boss says. Normal Folk need not dream too big or try and get too far and should spend their weekends watching mind numbing Television. Normal folk should match what their friends buy and where they dine even if it maxes out their credit cards and creates debt cycles for life.

But who are these normal folk? Doesn’t each one of us consider ourselves unique and special? Doesn’t each of us have dreams and aspirations? The problem is we also have an inner desire to be normal, to be like everyone else. 

You got to realize normal is just another word for mediocre. So be abnormal, define your own big stones and follow the path to your dreams. Forego shopping new watches and gadgets for a year and save for that trip to the Mediterranean. Do not send in your resume like everyone else but go meet the manager of the H.R. department and let him know how much you would love to work for their organization.

The truth is that normal people worship the great, the inspired and the people who went against the tide. So stop worshipping and start doing, and maybe normal folk will talk about you too. 

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